A lot of midlife couples, most in fact, rue the fact that the romance in their relationship is just not what it used to be in their initial years of courtship. They complain that their partners don’t love them the same way as they used to earlier, or that those magical moments that the two shared are now few and far in between, if they are there at all! If you could relate to such couples, then here’s one thing you must know – feeling that the spark in your relationship has died off is neither wrong nor worrying, making no attempt to reignite that spark is! When you have worked hard for a huge part of your life to make a relationship work, there is no reason why you should just let that passion wither away. You must make an earnest attempt to rekindle that romance. We know that is easier said than done but as are most things in life, aren’t they? So here are a few tips might really help you with rekindling your midlife relationship.
Start dating again
Do you remember your first date? How beautiful that evening was, how you felt really smitten by your partner, and how you both pulled out all the stops to impress each other? That day is still vividly etched in your memory, isn’t it? Now come back to the present and answer a few more questions. Do you two still go out dates? Do you still try to make each other feel as special and important as you did in your initial dates? The answer to this is in the negative, isn’t it? Well, you aren’t the only ones! Most couples stop dating once they are assured that they are both going to stay in the relationship for long. You start taking each other for granted. You do not go out of your way to work your charm on your partner and try and occupy a special place in their heart because you have that already. And this, ultimately, causes the passion and the romance in the relationship to just taper off a bit.
However, all’s not lost yet! You could still correct what has gone wrong. So start dating again. Start putting your best self out in front of your partner. Try to recreate what happened when you guys were just starting to get to know each other. Make reservations for a candle-light dinner. Order a bottle of champagne and leverage those mandatory nostalgic sentiments to rekindle your midlife romance.
Appreciate each other
Do you remember how she used to blush when you told her gorgeous she looked? Or how he smiled from ear to ear when you told him he makes you laugh like crazy? Those things don’t happen anymore, do they?
When you receive a compliment from someone, it makes you feel special. And when that compliment comes from your partner, you literally feel the happiest that a person ever could! So keep those compliments flowing! Appreciate your partner for the qualities that they have. Appreciate them for what makes them different from everyone else. Tell them how you consider yourself so lucky to have them in your life. Keep reminding each other about how important you are for one another. Such gestures usually invite a reciprocal along similar lines and eventually keep both partners happier and committed to the midlife relationship.
Spice up your activities between the sheets
One of the more ‘result-guaranteed’ ways to rejuvenate your midlife marriage is to rejuvenate your sex life. Few things beat the impact that a strong physical connection could have on a dwindling midlife relationship. However, most midlife couples do not have as much sex as they should. Sometimes it is just out of fatigue, sometimes it is due to the lack of novelty in the activity. So look for options that could breathe new life into your activities between the sheets. Try to make foreplay more edgy and inventive. Take the help of toys if need may be. Make it more fun. Experimenting with role-playing may not be a bad idea too. Choose what you think would work best for you and your partner. Whatever you do, just ensure that you do not make what is enjoyable seem like work.
Keep each other guessing
Who doesn’t love surprises! Unless it doesn’t involve something that would have cops knocking at your door, everyone does! But for some strange reason, midlife couples tend to forget this basic fact.
Monotony is one of the major contributing factors for a stalled midlife relationship. In an age where monotony is a part and parcel of our professional sphere, irrespective of what profession or occupation we are in, we expect some sort of excitement or a surprise from our personal relationships. But if they too become monotonous, then we just tend to lose interest in them.
To ensure this doesn’t happen with your midlife marriage, plan a little surprise for your loved one every once in a while. And you don’t even need to plan something extravagant – a simple dinner, a surprise visit to their office during lunch break, or just an ‘I love you’ text at random hours would do just fine! If your partner is perennially excited about what your next move would be to surprise them (in a happy sense, of course!), then the spark in your midlife romance would stay ignited for a long period of time.
Go for a holiday
Sometimes, all that a relationship needs to reignite is just a change of scenery! Head to a holiday destination together and just relax and unwind. A fresh mind is a lot more romantic than a jaded one, for sure! Make sure you do not carry your work or personal issues with you. Reserve the holiday for yourself and your partner. More often than not, that holiday would work like a charm, trust us on this one!
Reigniting the passion in a midlife relationship is a tough nut to crack, but the 5 tips mentioned here should make that task a lot more doable!